Table 4 One

I am a person of action… I really don’t like to say what I am going to; I JUST DO IT! Have you ever had someone get your hopes up about something and never come through?!? As a child, I was very blessed with parents who very rarely let this happen, so it’s not something I’m used to! Call me spoiled, but that’s how I was raised. I expect the same thing with all of my interactions with people whether it’s friends, coworkers or family… but especially from someone I am dating. Why make false promises? Now, don’t get me wrong, I know things happen and you can’t always do the things you intend on doing… But I am speaking of the fairy tale builders and the ones who lay it on thick because they have other intentions. This is utterly ridiculous and I know it happens, because not only has it happened to me, but I have spoken to men who say that this is what they do! “I just tell them what I could do for them and they give me what I want just because I say I’m gonna do something!” Come o...

I for one ALWAYS follow the rules! I was a very obedient child and very rarely got in trouble.   But when it comes to dating I can’t figure out which rules to follow!   I like rules (to a certain extent) because they create boundaries, order, and accountability.   However, when it comes to dating, there are so many unwritten rules; I find it hard to keep up.   Especially with so many relationship books telling us how to act, what to wear, how to respond in situations, when to give up the cookies and how to respond in different situations… blah blah blah! I am completely confused with what's right and what's wrong… Between Steve Harvey, Dr. Love and whoever else claims to be an expert on relationships telling us what to do, women have completely morphed into puppets! Some women are calculating every single move they make when dating because these "experts" told them to!   Forgive my tone if I sound a little harsh but this whole "relationship expert advised...

I’d like to think that I am a great conversationalist and in order for me to be an affective communicator I must be a great listener.   Sometimes I talk too much…LOL, but my father says, “God gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth, so we could listen twice as much as we speak”!   Lately, I have been trying to listen more to the things around me… But not just the obvious, like what I hear people say, but to the unconventional things like my instincts!   I never thought I had a womanly instinct to listen to because I guess I’ve never thought of myself as a woman!   (Weird, right?) I mean, I thought of myself as a woman, scientifically (let’s clear that up)…LOL, but I never thought I had experienced enough in life to adorn that title, until recently. But now that I view myself as a woman…as a W-O-M-A-N…I have begun to pay attention to the little things.   Butterflies in my stomach, second thoughts, angry reactions and whatever other signs may come.   I listen!   E...

I love Twitter; it gives me the opportunity to express myself and converse with people from all over the world.   And for the most part, my tweets are pretty positive.   But every now and then, I get a little down and want to express those feelings. So, I have a question for you:   Do you believe that it is possible to be grateful and unhappy at the same time? I tweeted this the other day: “I am grateful for what I have in my life, but I am not happy.” It sparked up a conversation with a few of my followers that made me want to express my reason for tweeting this a little further.   I just really wonder if this is possible… to be grateful, yet unhappy… For instance, some people are grateful for their job, but are not happy in it.   See, my biggest fear is for my gratefulness and faith to go unrecognized… I don’t want to have things taken away from me (or not given to me at all) because I am ungrateful for my current position in life.   I have t...

When I was a child, I hardly ever got into trouble, but when I did it was for silly things, like talking too much in class or laughing uncontrollably.   Yes, I was the silly kid that all teachers despise; I would hear or see something silly and laugh for ridiculous amounts of time at something that probably wasn’t very funny to begin with .   And this wasn’t a fake laugh, it was an out loud, tear jerking, hold your stomach laugh! But as I’ve grown up and experienced LIFE, I sometimes wish I could go back to the 10-year-old little girl with no worries and no reasons needed to laugh.   To laugh just for the hell of it is a wonderful thing!   I believe laughter is therapeutic… Have you ever been in a room with someone who started laughing at something that you didn’t feel was funny at all, but all of a sudden you are laughing right along with them!?!   This happens to me all of the time…Maybe it’s because I’m silly, but trust me, I take joy any way I can get it ...

Are you forgiving?   I mean really, truly forgiving?   I know I try to be, but only when it’s granted. It actually takes a lot of strength to be forgiving; to take your feelings out of a situation and forgive the person who has wronged, hurt, angered, or WHATEVERED (yes, I made up a word) you!   I’m pretty sure it all boils down to the bigger situation and if it’s actually worth it.   But, that’s a personal choice. Before you decide to forgive someone, do you come up with grounds for whether or not they should be forgiven or is it a choice you make, regardless of their reasoning?   I, for one, am a pretty good judge of a meaningful apology and that’s usually all it takes.   I mean, we are talking about minor, non-life changing, silly, but still significant situations that can be corrected.   I mean, who are we to judge?   The most unforgiving people usually are in the wrong or in wrong situations themselves.   I wonder why that is? I won...

I’ve been in quite the rut lately.   I can’t even fake the funk; I’ve been looking at those around me and comparing their situations to my own.   I’m looking at what they have personally, professionally, and financially and realizing that I am in a completely different place in all of those areas.   That’s not the way to live this life!   I mean if I walk around trying to see if I measure up to those around me, I will never be satisfied with where I am!   I’ve got to snap out of this!   I am, indeed, very blessed and this pity party that I‘m giving myself only has one guest and that’s me! I’ve had some bad days over these last couple weeks, but I’ve had some great ones too! Why do we give the bad stuff in our lives so much more validity than the good stuff!?!   So what, over the last few weeks I’ve had maybe 3 bad days, but the rest have been great!   I had an amazing time at my birthday party…I hung out with family and friends, I danced, sang ...