Table 4 One

Are you a “side chick”?   Does your man take you around his family?   Does he take you around his friends?   Do you speak to him throughout the day?   Have you ever been to his house?   If your answer to most of these questions is NO, you just might be a side chick!   Now, I know some people are okay with being in this position, but I for one, AM NOT! When dating I like to receive a substantial amount of attention.   Not necessarily to consume the life of the person I’m dating, but I like to know that I am the one person that is receiving most of their attention.   Some women are okay with sloppy seconds, being the “chick on the side”, but it’s just not me!   I am too spoiled, loud and in need of attention to be in that position…I just don’t have it in me!   I was used to being in a relationship, receiving all of the attention and all of a sudden I’m supposed to take what I can get!?!   NO! I don’t think so! Some women are okay in ...

I was going to write about something totally different today, but all of the random “Good Morning” texts I received this morning completely changed my mind!   Now, I’m not sure if I’m the only one this happens to, but what’s up with this dreaded “Good Morning” text!?! What does it mean?   Are these guys really thinking of me?   Are they just being polite?   Is it game?   How many other chicks are getting the same text?   I mean seriously, I am not personally affected by these random “acts” of kindness, but I used to be… Once upon a time, there was a girl…A girl whose daily mood completely depended on an insignificant “Good Morning” text!   It was so stupid, now that I think about it, how I could be so naïve!?!   But it made me feel valued, cared for and thought of.   I would really look forward to it every morning and if I didn’t get it, I was completely pissed and he had hell to pay!   How could I let this tiny gesture effect my ENTIRE...

To settle or not to settle? That is the question… As I sit and watch an episode of VH1's new hit show “Single Ladies”, I have realized that I could sooooo be a character on this show!   Now, there's Val, the woman who has it all!   Her own business, wonderful friends, a beautiful home, but no LOVE... Keisha is the vixen and desired by most of the men she meets!   A beautifully independent woman, who views dating as freely and frivolously as men…but she may have actually found love this time around.  Lastly there's April; she had the perfect marriage, but became bored in her relationship and cheated on her husband.  She is now going through an unwanted divorce.   All that's missing is me; the recently single, confident, cute and outgoing woman who wants to have fun dating, but is never approached by the men she considers to be "worth it..." Fits right in, huh? I have great friends in my life, one of whom is my mother; I talk to her about almost ever...

I started my car this morning and Beyonce’s song “Best Thing I Never Had” came blasting through my speakers.   As I drove to the train, I listened to the words and began to relate them to my life.   I began to think of how I can avoid these types of situations.   How can I keep the “unworthy” people out and have respectable, loving people of integrity in my life.   A friend of mine reminded me to pray for them, to ask God to bring “worthy” people into my life and to show me a TRUE BLUE sign if they are not!   BTW: I don’t mean “worthy” in a cocky, self-centered or conceited type of way.   I simply mean I want to have people around me who share the same beliefs and attributes as me. But then I needed to narrow it down and see what was most important.   As I ran several characteristics through my head, honesty stuck out the most.   Meaning, if I want nothing else from the people in my life, I want honesty. Now I have to be honest! (No pun intended) ...

Summer is here, I’m cute and it’s time to party!   Its summer 2010, my first single summer in years and I’m ready to kick it!   In my past relationship, I was very loyal.   So, over the last few years I have had very little friends of the opposite sex, and I most definitely didn’t want to meet any new ones…For what?!?   I was in love and whatever this “new friend” wanted to do for me, I already had at home.   Well, this came back to bite me in the butt, because now that I was single, I had no one to turn to when I was lonely.   But, I was definitely ready now… Ready for new friends and new experiences… It was time for something new.   On a night out with my girls, a night I didn’t want to go out, might I add… I met a boy!   Have you ever had a day where no matter what you put on, you didn’t feel pretty?   Well, this was one of those days!   And understand that I have some cute friends, so I knew I’d feel inferior, but I went anyway. ...

Ok… Seems as if I definitely need to set the record straight! I was a little eager in posting yesterday and although “Table for One” will only be updated once a week, I feel the need to clear some things up.   I have come a long way in my journey to happiness and although I wouldn’t say I am completely there… I am well on my way! Have you ever felt alone in a room full of people? Well I have… and I thought that it would be interesting to tell my story, because there were times when I felt very alone, even with tons of family and friends there to support me.   Although I knew that people get their hearts broken everyday and bounce back… I couldn’t see it.   The “light at the end of the tunnel” was non-existent! Slowly but surely I began to heal.   I began to do all kinds of new things and surround myself with loving people in order to do so.   I have met people in the past year and a half that will be my friends for the rest of my life.   In my case, I did...

When you smile is it a true demonstration of how you feel? Or is it merely a mask? Well I have to be honest with you, almost every time I smiled last year (2010) it was merely a mask, a cover up, a façade! I was hiding my real feelings by smiling in spite of.   In spite of pain, a broken heart, loneliness, betrayal.   I was abruptly thrown into a life that I hadn’t seen in 5 years.   The Single Life… I was truly in unfamiliar territory; my relationship had consumed my life.   Every aspect of my life either directly or indirectly related back to my relationship in some way.   So now that I was alone… What was I to do?   Well, I tricked myself! Lbvs… I refused to be unhappy, to let my ex have that much control over my life!   So I gave myself (in my mind) one week to get all of the screaming, crying, blaming, cursing and depression out of my system. Then I became the “I don’t need a man to make me happy” beautiful single woman who was enjoying my life! (...