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Let It Flow

“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want and just see what happens!” – Carrie Bradshaw This quote completely speaks to me and to so many single women I’ve had conversations with.Just as I’ve said previously, it’s ok to want a relationship, but we have to be careful how we go about attaining them!I am definitely an over analyzer and have read into so many situations the wrong way…Everyone is not going to be honest; every man you date is not looking for a relationship; Prince Charming is a fairy tale character and I doubt he’s walking around your city trying to find you!I don’t want to be the girl dreaming up some great love story in my head for no reason…I have to keep my feet strongly planted, even though some situations make me feel like I want to fly!Living with a realistic mindset when dating is a MUST! Dating someone new is always fun, at least it is for me…I have these great …

Seasons

Think about your favorite season… I, for one, prefer summer because the sun is always shining, the temperature is perfect for ice cream and outdoor activities, and it just seems like people are in better moods!When I think of seasons, I think of the elements that are present during that time, like snow in the winter, rain in the spring, leaves falling in the fall and sunshine in the summer.This can also be the same for the relationships in our lives, because most of them go through seasonal changes. It’s very funny how life’s seasons teach us lessons.Of course, everything happens for a reason and I try my best to look at each situation I’m faced with in life as a lesson to make me a better person.People come and go in our lives like seasons…they come in, do their job and leave (at least that’s how it works in my life).I suppose it’s to make us think, analyze, learn and grow as people.I have learned to enjoy the time I have with people, because I realize that it may only be for a season …

Mr. Consistency

I’ve learned several things about myself over the last few months and have been trying to become more open and compromising when it comes to dating.However, the one thing I’ve learned that I cannot tolerate while getting to know someone is inconsistency. Consistency shows many things, responsibility, integrity, loyalty and most importantly, builds trust.That’s the whole point of dating, right?To get to know someone, to learn their character and discover whether they are someone you could potentially build a relationship with… And constant inconsistency could ruin all of that.It can be super confusing and ruin the whole fun of the process, plus I am too impatient to deal with it. I’ve never had a problem letting you all know my dating struggles…and trust seems to be the biggest one.As I think about what allows me to let my guard down when dating someone, it is most definitely, without a shadow of a doubt… CONSISTENCY! Have you ever interacted with a person and they acted one way, then the…