“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want and just see what happens!” – Carrie Bradshaw
This quote completely speaks to me and to so many single women I’ve had conversations with. Just as I’ve said previously, it’s ok to want a relationship, but we have to be careful how we go about attaining them! I am definitely an over analyzer and have read into so many situations the wrong way…Everyone is not going to be honest; every man you date is not looking for a relationship; Prince Charming is a fairy tale character and I doubt he’s walking around your city trying to find you! I don’t want to be the girl dreaming up some great love story in my head for no reason…I have to keep my feet strongly planted, even though some situations make me feel like I want to fly! Living with a realistic mindset when dating is a MUST!
Dating someone new is always fun, at least it is for me…I have these great expectations and hope for wonderful things to happen! The smallest things put the biggest smiles on my face, and that’s because I am hopeful for the possibility…The possibility of building something, actually getting to know someone new, and the thrill and excitement of the unknown. But, my past still has me very cautious…
It’s sad, but I’ve sort of learned to set myself up for disappointment, so that it doesn’t hurt if a situation doesn’t work out. One of my besties and I, kind of work as each other’s “reality check” when it comes to dating… LOL! I’ll call her, all excited about a new guy I’m dating or someone I’ve met and she immediately turns on her soft (psychiatrist) voice! LOL “Okay, I know you like him and he seems really nice, but I’m going to need you to calm down”! She sweetly brings me back to reality, which is most of the time definitely needed! But, don’t get it twisted; I have to do the same for her and my other friends too!
It’s very easy to give someone else advice… I guess things really are easier said than done. I know when I am giving advice, I am strong and stern with no leeway or room for exceptions, in regards to their situations. But my personal situations get all of the exceptions in the book! I don’t know why that is… But it is.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t get excited about dating someone new, but we have to learn to go with the flow. Chill out and see what happens. I know it’s hard, because it’s a pretty good feeling to sit at a table for two, just make sure you’re not settling and compromising what you truly want for instant gratification! Patience is a hard virtue to carry, but can totally be worth the wait!
Table for One please… simply going with the flow… Love me or leave me alone
BACK TO HAPPY TIP: Live IN the moment. Don’t let our fast paced world ruin any experience. When you are able to simply enjoy the little things, they become much bigger than you expected them to be!