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Monday, August 27, 2012

Crazy AIN'T Cute!

How this whole “dating thing” works can be completely confusing, at times!  Well, at least for me it can be!  Usually, I meet a cute guy, text for a while, have a couple phone calls, and if I’m still interested after all that… we go on a date!

I am very, very cautious in new dating situations.  I always meet my date in a public place and then once I feel comfortable, I allow him to pick me up from my home.  I have to be careful who I interact with as a single woman (we all do) because you never know if this really cute guy just happens to be crazy as hell!!

I’m not talking about “you so crazy”, crazy as hell... I’m talking about, hiding in your bushes, show up to your hangouts, and stalk your social media pages… CRAZY!!

But what do you do when they hold out on showing their crazy?  How do you recognize the crazy before it’s too late?  A friend of mine told me, the crazy is always there, you just have to recognize it!

I was dating a guy; he was fine too!  Geez… Had me swooning so much I didn’t pay attention to the crazy signs.  And he did show them… If I didn’t answer the phone or was unavailable, I consistently had an angry voice mail waiting for me.

Sign.

I thought he was just trying to ruffle my feathers, acting like a baby, cuttin’ up… But this man turned out to be crazy, FOR REAL!  To make a long story short, I saw too many crazy signs and I had to let him go!  To further prove my point, he continues to call my phone and send texts daily.  I will NEVER respond to him, EVER!  I cannot take the risk… I’m just happy I saw the signs before he really showed me how crazy he was!

But ladies, some of us are crazy too!  I have a friend who happens to be a handsome and successful man.  He has no trouble in the dating department; in fact, he gets lots of attention from women.  Recently, we had a conversation about one woman who takes it completely too far!

She leaves him Facebook messages, texts often, and shows up to places when she knows he’ll be there!  I’ve seen this with my own two eyes and he NEVER responds.  I wonder where this motivation comes from!  What makes a person this persistent?!?  I mean seriously, if she put this much effort into starting a business, she’d be a millionaire!  But what bothers me the most is that she is a woman!

Ladies, I don’t care how many movies you’ve seen or books you’ve read, MEN LOVE TO CHASE!  If you are doing ALL of the calling, ALL of the texting, ALL of the reaching out, then he’s just not that into you!  When a man is interested, he will make it known!

Bottom line, crazy AIN’T cute!  Be careful who you interact with and watch for signs, because things could get bad very quickly!  Also, try your best NOT to be a “crazy”, LOL!

Table for One please… Cautiously dating… Love me or leave me alone!

BACK TO HAPPY TIP:  There’s a thin line between cute and crazy!  You never want to be perceived as something you are not!  So watch your actions, it may save you a little heartache!


Monday, August 20, 2012

What's Next!?!

What’s next?  I’ve come to the conclusion that life has its own plan and that things only happen when they are supposed to.  I often find myself looking for the light at the end of the tunnel, the prize in the Cracker Jack box, the center of the Tootsie Pop… But I haven’t quite found ALL that I am looking for just yet.

I’ve learned to be content with my current place in life, to be happy with all that I have been given.  But I can’t help but wonder what’s next!?!  Most of the people who “really” know me, understand that I have had a few desires unfulfilled over the last couple of years and it took me a while to learn to focus on the positive.  Please know that I have come to terms with where my life has brought me, but what’s next?!?

Professionally, things have begun to move forward.  I am making small advancements, building a great reputation, and preparing myself to make huge steps toward career advancement.  I have set goals and met them…I am currently basking in the fact that I set a goal and reached it!  But I still want more…

Does my “want for more” mean I don’t appreciate my current blessings?!?  Absolutely not!  Yes, I am happy!  The sun is finally shining on me and for that I am grateful… But what’s next?

I want so much more out of life and I speak those wants daily.  I don’t want to seem greedy or dissatisfied because I’m definitely grateful for all that I have, BUT I want more!  My want for more does not outweigh my grateful heart though!  Please believe that!  I’ll continue to look forward to what’s next because my blessings have already begun to poor in…

Not just for me though, my friends and family are getting all that they have asked for as well, babies, weddings, new relationships, promotions, new homes and more!  Our wants have become realities and I am so super excited for everyone around me!!!  You’ve gotta learn to be happy for those around you and before you know it, you’ll be smiling for things that are happening in your own life!  Trust me…I’m a living witness!

What’s next?!?! I’m not sure… Stay tuned…

Table for one please… I can finally see the light... Love me or leave me alone!

BACK TO HAPPY TIP: Its fun to have things to look forward to, so when you do look forward... The BEST is yet to come :-)

Monday, August 6, 2012

The Storm is Over Now!

There’s something about the way the sun shines right after a storm that makes it so much better.  The reflections of the sun against the rain puddles are reminders that the storm has come and gone!  Reminders are the best; they show us the past, so that we can appreciate the present.

Have you ever been so fixated on the past that you couldn’t appreciate the present?  My current place in life is exactly like the calm after a storm.  The birds are beginning to chirp again, the sun rays are peeking through the clouds, and refreshing raindrops continue to drip from the leaves of the trees.  Things are very peaceful, as if something wonderful is coming.

Late last year, I wrote about how I was in a storm and how I was handling it, http://thistable4one.blogspot.com/2011/12/milk-and-honey.html  I knew that I needed to stay grounded and hopeful…I needed to remember that my present was better than my past and speak great things into my future!  This was a pretty difficult time in my life but I continued to remember that storms always pass.  I was right!  I’m continually grateful for my strength and support system because THE STORM IS OVER NOW!

Stay hopeful, find the bright side, and understand the test!  I’m not saying that I have completely found all that I am looking for; I have however, learned to appreciate receiving the things I have been praying for.  I’m simply enjoying the calm after the storm, basking in it all because another storm may be here before I know it!

I think that life is a test, where at times we are the smart kid in class and other times we need a little help…It’s in those times that we need to remember that trouble don’t last always!
                

I know that in this life, I will have to face many more storms, but I am grateful for today!  Enjoying the calm AFTER the storm, reflecting on what I’ve been through, and preparing for what’s next!  I appreciate the storm but the storm is over now!

Hello sunshine…  I’ve been waiting for you!  :)

Table for One please… Eager for what’s to come… Love me or leave me alone!

BACK TO HAPPY TIP: Appreciate the present… It is only preparation for the future!