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Clarity

As you all know, I’ve been relishing in my single life for a while now and truly enjoying it.But every now and then, I get a flashback…And this one came completely by surprise. Last Sunday, I was having a conversation with someone I hadn’t seen in a while. We caught up with the usual “how are you” & “how’s the fam” generic questions you ask when you haven’t seen someone in a while. We were just breezing through our lightweight conversation and then he asked about my ex. This wasn’t a surprise because for so long, when you saw him, you saw me.I gave short yet sweet answers to let him know that I was ok and that I hadn’t talked to him.Then he asked a question! A question that was completely unexpected. .. “You do know that there isn’t anything wrong with you and that you didn’t do anything wrong right??” I wonder what my face looked like, because I was not expecting him to say that.  As tears streamed down my face, he proceeded to tell me how men handle situations much differently than…

For Friendship or For Love...

Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable. ~ Bruce Lee

We all know the story of Love & Basketball, but just in case you are one of the few people on earth who hasn’t seen it…Quincy and Monica are childhood friends who are nothing more than just that, until their senior year of high school when things change. They decide to become more than friends.Their relationship has its ups and downs, but they eventually live happily ever after. Well, I tried to make this movie a reality in my own life a couple times.I’ve had great friendships with men that were just that, friendships.But my last two relationships, which lasted for several years, didn’t quite turn out like the movie.Both of them ended abruptly, leaving me with feelings of pain and regret.What did I gain from these relationships?These …

Love Music?

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Music can make you think, cry, laugh, dance, worship and so much more.As I studied radio production at Columbia College Chicago, I learned a lot about music and how its timing can make or break a mood. There are many ways you can express yourself through music.It makes dancers dance and singers sing.I have been a dancer since I was 2 years old, so when I hear music I immediately want to dance.It’s like it’s in my blood!But no matter how you slice it, music enhances all feelings and emotions. As I was driving home the other night after having drinks with a friend, I turned to WGCI.“Whispers in the Dark” was on, a show that plays nothing but songs regarding relationships; from 10pm to 2am every day.As I drove the 20 minute drive home all kinds of songs were playing in my ear… I heard these men and women singing of love and happiness and I felt nothing. Not one thought to make me smile, giggle, feel butterflies or even get angry! I was blank! Now of course old songs bring back moments &…