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Actions Speak

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I am a person of action… I really don’t like to say what I am going to; I JUST DO IT! Have you ever had someone get your hopes up about something and never come through?!? As a child, I was very blessed with parents who very rarely let this happen, so it’s not something I’m used to! Call me spoiled, but that’s how I was raised. I expect the same thing with all of my interactions with people whether it’s friends, coworkers or family… but especially from someone I am dating. Why make false promises? Now, don’t get me wrong, I know things happen and you can’t always do the things you intend on doing… But I am speaking of the fairy tale builders and the ones who lay it on thick because they have other intentions. This is utterly ridiculous and I know it happens, because not only has it happened to me, but I have spoken to men who say that this is what they do! “I just tell them what I could do for them and they give me what I want just because I say I’m gonna do something!” Come on now ladie…

Act like... YOURSELF!

I for one ALWAYS follow the rules! I was a very obedient child and very rarely got in trouble.But when it comes to dating I can’t figure out which rules to follow!I like rules (to a certain extent) because they create boundaries, order, and accountability. However, when it comes to dating, there are so many unwritten rules; I find it hard to keep up.Especially with so many relationship books telling us how to act, what to wear, how to respond in situations, when to give up the cookies and how to respond in different situations… blah blah blah! I am completely confused with what's right and what's wrong… Between Steve Harvey, Dr. Love and whoever else claims to be an expert on relationships telling us what to do, women have completely morphed into puppets! Some women are calculating every single move they make when dating because these "experts" told them to!Forgive my tone if I sound a little harsh but this whole "relationship expert advised" dating world has…

Cause I'm a Woman! W-O-M-A-N!

I’d like to think that I am a great conversationalist and in order for me to be an affective communicator I must be a great listener.Sometimes I talk too much…LOL, but my father says, “God gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth, so we could listen twice as much as we speak”!Lately, I have been trying to listen more to the things around me… But not just the obvious, like what I hear people say, but to the unconventional things like my instincts!I never thought I had a womanly instinct to listen to because I guess I’ve never thought of myself as a woman!(Weird, right?) I mean, I thought of myself as a woman, scientifically (let’s clear that up)…LOL, but I never thought I had experienced enough in life to adorn that title, until recently. But now that I view myself as a woman…as a W-O-M-A-N…I have begun to pay attention to the little things.Butterflies in my stomach, second thoughts, angry reactions and whatever other signs may come.I listen!Especially when it comes to dating, it’s the only thing I h…