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Wednesday, December 19, 2012


I have to be honest with you… As I began to write this week’s post I found myself writing, re-writing, and editing what I had written… I found myself explaining why the post was so sad and discouraging.  I wrote about how I am ready for more… How I am trying to stay encouraged during what is pretty lonely holiday season for me.  And then, as I listened to Pandora Radio these words began to pump through my speakers:

Sometimes you have to encourage yourself.
Sometimes you have to speak victory during the test.
And no matter how you feel,
speak the word and you will be healed;
speak over yourself,
encourage yourself in the Lord…

This song is called Encourage Yourself by Donald Lawrence.  Although I have always loved this song and have turned to it in times of needed encouragement, there was something special about its timing on this particular day.  I was literally writing a post complaining.  Complaining about my personal life and how I want more.  Being single is not always easy and although at times it can be fun, freeing, unpredictable, and exciting, it can also be lonely, difficult and trying. 

But, when you know that others expect certain things from you, you feel the need to be that person for them at all times.  Not only is this exhausting, however, it is an extremely hard task because no one is ever “always” anything.  I cry and get sad, I kick and scream and complain… I am human.  But for some reason I feel like I cannot allow myself to go there because I have to encourage others (I’m pretty sure it is become my purpose for being here) and how can I be positive and encouraging if I am complaining about my own life.  It feels selfish and ungrateful, which are two things we all know I never want to be viewed as.

A good friend of mine, Andrew, tweeted this: Who encourages the encourager?

Although he posted this tweet a while ago, it continued to stick with me as I face life!  I have so much going on that I do not have time to complain, and then when I do… I feel horrible about doing so, or some divine intervention stops me from going there!  But I have challenged myself to answer Andrew’s question…

The encouragers must find ways to encourage themselves as well as understand that needing encouragement is ok! I have learned to take it easy on myself when I am feeling down, because if I never had problems, hard times or unhappy moments how would I know what true happiness feels like? 

Life is a wonderful thing, it overflows with lessons but I am grateful for my open mind… I have somehow managed to turn my discouraged spirit into one that is hopeful and ready… Eager and excited for what’s to come… I’m not sure what will happen the next time I need a little encouragement, but just like the other encouragers of the world must do… I’ll figure it out!

Table for one please… Sometimes I amaze myself… Love me or leave me alone…

BACK TO HAPPY TIP: Things happen... Dust yourself off and try again! It works!

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

The Day of Never Before

Today, 12/12/12, the day of never before...  This is a once in a lifetime day!  I, along with several other people, am very excited and doing awesome things!  Some people are making wishes, others starting new ventures… and then there are the people who are living as if this day is nothing special!

How many opportunities do you get to celebrate for nothing at all?  I, for one, like to take days like these… you know, the abnormal ones, and create something special!  I just like to have a reason to celebrate, smile, and enjoy myself!  To be honest with you, I didn’t give it much thought until midnight…

Yesterday was quite a doozy for me…work was stressful, the day was long, and I couldn’t get through it fast enough.  For some reason, I was concentrating on some feedback I received a while ago and it was truly eating away at me. 

It’s weird though, because I was feeling down for the entire day and then at midnight, I was given a reason to smile, a few reasons…more than enough to make me forget about the insignificant situation that had me down. 

I'm a firm believer that we speak things into existence and a couple of weeks ago I wrote this:

This post was about still trying to find my worth and my purpose… Understanding that people seeing greatness in you doesn't necessarily mean that you see it in yourself!  I was/am there!  But after a while of complaining and searching and trying to understand, I've given up!  Not in the way you think.  I've just decided to stand still, because instead of taking the good, I always seem to take the bad.  I can receive 100,000 compliments and take the one criticism and let it destroy my confidence.  I've been there for a little over a week… I let someone's misconception of who I am, put a dent in my character and take a piece of my confidence.

Then a little after midnight, like a beacon of light in darkness... Trumpets in silence... An overabundance of reasons that I AM ENOUGH began to slap me in the face!

I like to think of today, 12/12/12, as the day of never before!  The day that I am taking control of my worth and living IN IT!  The day that what I say GOES!  The day that I am MORE THAN ENOUGH!  No more, faking it til I make it… I am GREAT!  I am CONFIDENT!  I am influential and powerful beyond measure!

I’m not sure how you will make this day special but DO IT!!  THIS type of day doesn’t come very often… So have fun with it… Why not?

Table for one please… FINDING reasons to smile… Love me or leave me alone!

BACK TO HAPPY TIP: Even if you have to make up ways to smile… DO IT! Be happy… For no reason at all!

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

If you ask me, I'm Ready!

As I look at this picture, I see more of myself than the normal person would.  This feather is not only beautiful, but it is free, detached, and open to vast opportunities.  It’s open to go anywhere.  It has no boundaries… This feather is me.

I am so super excited for my future… As 2013 approaches, I am so excited for what’s in store for me as I, like this feather, am ready for anything…ready to see the fruits of my labor.  I am excited.  Open.  Eager.  Optimistic.

This feather inspires me…this feather gives me a better outlook.  You may see something completely different.  I am grateful for my perception.  Stay tuned…

Table for one please… If you ask me, I’m ready!  Love me or leave me alone…

BACK TO HAPPY TIP:  If I can find hope in a single feather, you can find hope somewhere.  Stay positive, optimistic, and prayerful.  It’s coming.