One of my favorite movies in the entire world is “Coming to America”. It’s a side-splitting comedy about an African prince who goes to New York in hopes of finding a bride, so he won’t have to marry the princess his parents have chosen for him. In the end, he finds love and they live happily ever after…Of course!
Isn’t that what happens in the movies? Girl meets Boy…Girl falls in love…Boy falls too (eventually)… and they live happily ever after! Movies have had me thinking this is what my life would be like as an adult! Well they damn sure had me fooled! It’s definitely not how my life has played out.
I always thought I’d be married and done having children before I turned 30… Well, I’m pretty close to 30 and that has yet to happen. In fact, I don’t see it anywhere in my near future. I don’t see my childhood prediction coming into fruition anytime soon.
While dating, it’s been super difficult to encounter a man who actually wants to be in a monogamous relationship…let alone, get married! In my experience, when we enter a relationship, as women, we are forced to wait until the man is ready to get married! In this case, we can either stay and patiently wait until they are ready…or leave! There really is no in-between and that is not cool, but it’s reality.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not one of those women out in the world, dating and “looking for my husband”. I understand that what’s for me will come to me, in due time; however, I sometimes get a little impatient and frustrated while waiting for him to arrive! I enjoy my life, most of the time, and am grateful for the people in it, but every now and then I think of where I would like to have been in my life by now.
As a little girl, I dreamed of dressing up like a princess and having my father “give me away” to my Prince Charming… Then having beautiful children who looked like a mixture of the two of us. I want to have the American Dream…You know, get married, have children, the white picket fence and all of that! But, this has yet to happen.
My childhood dream has matured a bit though… Meaning, I still want to get married, but I want to have a successful, kind, loving, loyal marriage, built on trust and spirituality. I don’t just want a wedding… I want it all… Not just the dress, but the dream… Not just the cake, but the care… Not just the songs, but the solidarity… Not just the tradition, but the trust…
Now my mother, the hopeless romantic, is optimistic and basically has my wedding planned! I am not there yet… I simply want an honest and loving relationship that will eventually turn into a family of my own. Life has a way of showing us that all fantasies do not become reality. I understand that I am in the real world, living an adult life and fairy tales are just that… TALES! Now that my reality has set-in, I believe what Grace Kelley once said to be true, “The idea of my life as a fairy tale is itself a fairy tale”.
Table for One please… Living my reality… Love me or leave me alone…
BACK TO HAPPY TIP: Find ways to make new memories… Living in the past will keep you stuck there! New, good times will bring new, beautiful smiles & memories!