As I sit at the bar, sipping my Lemon Drop martini, I am thinking about why my life has turned out the way it has... (Don’t worry, this isn’t a “woe is me” post, I promise). I believe people are given certain things in life, in God’s time, not theirs, and that’s what’s happening to me.
Are you a person who cares what others think of you? I used to be that way… I used to care what people thought about what I wore, the things I said, who I hung out with and superficial stuff like that. And as I look back, I blame my father who every morning when I was a child, woke me up by singing, “You Are So Beautiful to Me”! What else is a girl supposed to think when she’s being serenaded this “self-esteem boosting” song! My father made me feel like I was the ONLY girl in the world, and as far as I knew, every man was going to treat me just like my daddy.
This treatment always had my self-esteem through the roof, between my father’s serenades and my mother complimenting me every chance she got, I was hopeless! LOL I was the perfect little girl with the perfect life who everybody loved! Ha! What a joke? I soon found out that everyone IS NOT going to like you. I learned that my voice is annoying and on top of that, I’m loud…everyone doesn’t feel I’m as pretty as my mommy and I’m not going to get my way with everyone all of the time because everyone DOES NOT have to like me. This was a tough pill to swallow for a perfect little girl like me, but I eventually swallowed it.
Now don’t get me wrong, being thrown into this life did not turn me into a person with low self-esteem, but I did learn that people have opinions about the type of person that you are and they aren’t always going to be good.
MESSAGE: Everyone on this earth IS NOT going to like you!
It took me a while to accept this (to be honest, I’m still working on it), the fact that everyone doesn’t love me!! I mean, who couldn’t love me!?!? (Just kidding) But if everyone was the same and everyone liked everyone, this would be one boring life we lived!
I am faced with the same dilemma while dating, the fact that some dating situations don’t work out… Even the ones we want to! And that’s okay; it doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with you! I promise!
And you cannot get all down and out and in the dumps either, just because you haven’t found WHATEVER it is that you are looking for in life. I’ve learned to find other ways to keep a smile on my face… and one of them is having my daddy sing “You Are So Beautiful to Me” every once in a while. And nope, don’t ask if he can sing it to you because I may need him to sing it to me a few more times until my “new song” arrives!
Here's Babyface singing my song... Take a listen!