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Monday, September 10, 2012

Hello Fear

I’ve never thought of myself as a fearful person… Cautious maybe, but never fearful…  Being afraid would make me a coward and that is something I definitely am not!  But as I look at how I sometimes live my life, I realize that I may be living in fear.

Fear of being hurt, fear of failure and the biggest one of all, fear of being alone!  To be honest with you, I’m afraid of trusting a situation enough to just “jump”… Be it a relationship, a new business venture, or everyday decisions.  This fear is most definitely holding me back!  But I refuse to let it take control.

This fear has, in fact, become my motivation…my reason to press on, move forward, and take a chance!  And if I fall, I fall.  I’ve talked about this before, but I think I’m able to face it all with a different point of view now.

What happens when you are too afraid to do something?  Lately, I’ve learned to ask myself where the fear comes from… Am I afraid of failure or that I may actually SUCCEED?  Success is scary… It comes with responsibility… expectations…

I believe fear is our mind’s way of making us think and evaluate our strength.  Either you will fight for what you want or you will give in to the fear.  Now, let’s not confuse our instincts telling us the difference between making a good or bad decision with fear.

The kind of fear I am speaking of is an emotion, a physical reaction prior to a certain expected occurrence.  And at this point, you have to make the decision to FIGHT or FLEE!

A few weeks ago a very close family member was going through a situation in her career in which she had no control.  She was not fearful; I was, very much so, but she wasn’t!  The situation ended up working out in her favor, which is awesome!  I learned so much from her as she “stood still”… Being fearless, actually worked in her favor and has inspired me immensely and my daily actions.

I am not Superwoman, but I do face my fears often and I have chosen to fight because fear could stop me from being great!  I want to be great!  I will be great and I will not let fear suppress the person I am destined to be!

Be it saying yes to a date, taking on a special project at work, learning a new skill or whatever, I will have control over my life!  This life is all about the decisions we make and living in fear is not only crippling, it’s detrimental!

I am looking my fear square in the eye! Hello fear…


Table for One please…  No longer afraid…  Love me or leave me alone!

BACK TO HAPPY TIP: Jump into your dreams... Don't let fear of any form hold you back, EVER! You may just disover how great you are!

2 comments:

  1. Great article .. I totally understand how you feel when it comes to the fearful aspect of life. But the mantra I had to learn to live by is " in order to be successful one must take risk" I now look at things and say at the end all I can say is that I gave it my best try!

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  2. Thanks for reading Nikki! I had to make the decision that fear WILL NOT consume my life! I'm still a work in progress... Excited for what's to come! :-)

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