Table 4 One

“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want and just see what happens!” – Carrie Bradshaw This quote completely speaks to me and to so many single women I’ve had conversations with.   Just as I’ve said previously, it’s ok to want a relationship, but we have to be careful how we go about attaining them!   I am definitely an over analyzer and have read into so many situations the wrong way…Everyone is not going to be honest; every man you date is not looking for a relationship; Prince Charming is a fairy tale character and I doubt he’s walking around your city trying to find you!   I don’t want to be the girl dreaming up some great love story in my head for no reason…I have to keep my feet strongly planted, even though some situations make me feel like I want to fly!   Living with a realistic mindset when dating is a MUST! Dating someone new is always fun, at l...

Think about your favorite season… I, for one, prefer summer because the sun is always shining, the temperature is perfect for ice cream and outdoor activities, and it just seems like people are in better moods!   When I think of seasons, I think of the elements that are present during that time, like snow in the winter, rain in the spring, leaves falling in the fall and sunshine in the summer.   This can also be the same for the relationships in our lives, because most of them go through seasonal changes. It’s very funny how life’s seasons teach us lessons.   Of course, everything happens for a reason and I try my best to look at each situation I’m faced with in life as a lesson to make me a better person.   People come and go in our lives like seasons…they come in, do their job and leave (at least that’s how it works in my life).   I suppose it’s to make us think, analyze, learn and grow as people.   I have learned to enjoy the time I have with people...

I’ve learned several things about myself over the last few months and have been trying to become more open and compromising when it comes to dating.   However, the one thing I’ve learned that I cannot tolerate while getting to know someone is inconsistency. Consistency shows many things, responsibility, integrity, loyalty and most importantly, builds trust.   That’s the whole point of dating, right?   To get to know someone, to learn their character and discover whether they are someone you could potentially build a relationship with… And constant inconsistency could ruin all of that.   It can be super confusing and ruin the whole fun of the process, plus I am too impatient to deal with it. I’ve never had a problem letting you all know my dating struggles…and trust seems to be the biggest one.   As I think about what allows me to let my guard down when dating someone, it is most definitely, without a shadow of a doubt… CONSISTENCY! Have you ever interacte...

“Your dreams about the future are quite intense now, bringing excitement one minute and worry the next.   You’re beginning to realize that your plans are not unfolding as expected.   But rather than feeling discouraged or defeated, try to see this as an opportunity to reinvent yourself according to your vision and not someone else’s.   Let go of past goals that are no longer meaningful. Instead, get ready to step into the year ahead by setting new priorities for your life.” I wanted to share my horoscope from yesterday with you because it was very fitting for today’s post.   I have been thinking about 2012 rapidly approaching and the things I want for myself in the New Year.   As I began to think of what I wanted everything on that list was in some way connected to “things’ in my past… How can you have a future if your past is still present?? 2012 is a new year, with new beginnings and I will have a new state of mind! I partied like a freakin ROCKSTAR in ...

Christmas is just around the corner and my spirit of giving has become very personal!  I have been shopping like I actually have extra money to spend!  Of course, while shopping for all my friends and family, I’ve found a few (meaning several) new items for myself!  It’s so sad… but I find it very hard to say “no” to shiny new things! I am by no means a fashionista, but I would say that I am fashion forward!  I wouldn’t say that I am always on top of what’s hot or not, but I definitely make it work!  I’ve been bitten by the online shopping bug and have somehow found myself in shopaholic hell!  An addictive personality and free shipping DO NOT mix! This is very, very serious!  But, the funny thing is… I make the best excuses!  LOL  I have 5 great reasons to justify my wallet-busting habits! 1. I’m single…I need to be cute when I go out! 2. The seasons change so often; I have to be prepared. 3. I must have shoes to match the clothes! (...

Have you heard of The Secret aka The Law of Attraction ? It is a metaphysical belief that "like attracts like" that positive and negative thinking bring about positive and negative physical results and respectively, is simply speaking things into existence! I believe in this whole-heartedly… That our thoughts, beliefs and state of mind have a massive impact on what actually happens in our lives. For instance, when I was thrown into the single life, I was a completely different person for a while… Sad, quiet, extremely sensitive (to be honest, I’m always extremely sensitive), I was basically a wreck!   Then one day, I decided that I was no longer going to be this person!   I was claiming my joy and taking it all back… And I did! Sometimes people count on you to be you !   And I was not providing my true self to my friends and family.   I have a friend who I have grown very close to in the past couple years.   She lives in Texas, so I hardly ever see...

One of my favorite movies in the entire world is “Coming to America”.   It’s a side-splitting comedy about an African prince who goes to New York in hopes of finding a bride, so he won’t have to marry the princess his parents have chosen for him.   In the end, he finds love and they live happily ever after…O f course ! Isn’t that what happens in the movies?   Girl meets Boy…Girl falls in love…Boy falls too (eventually)… and they live happily ever after!   Movies have had me thinking this is what my life would be like as an adult!   Well they damn sure had me fooled!   It’s definitely not how my life has played out. I always thought I’d be married and done having children before I turned 30… Well, I’m pretty close to 30 and that has yet to happen.   In fact, I don’t see it anywhere in my near future.   I don’t see my childhood prediction coming into fruition anytime soon.   While dating, it’s been super difficult to encounter a man wh...